When Parents Won’t Accept the Home Care Help they Need
Time to bring in help for mom and dad, but they are resistant to care…
Accepting help is not always an easy decision for aging seniors, especially when it comes to personal care. Accepting help often represents a loss of independence, and the admission that they can’t do as much as they used to. Naturally, there will be some pushback.
If your loved one is being resistant, it is important to respect their decision. However, it is critical that proper care be put in place. Therefore, it should be done in a way that eases them into the process that, for many, is a major lifestyle change.
Change can be difficult for many seniors. Be patient and keep the following suggestions in mind:
- Introduce the idea slowly. Give them time to accept the idea.
- Offer a test run. They may be willing to try a caregiver for a short time, especially if they know they can change their mind later.
- Sometimes parents are more willing to accept a caregiver’s help if it is presented as being for the family caregiver’s benefit.
- Start the caregiver with household chores, NOT personal or “hands on” care.
- Slowly introduce these other tasks as familiarity grows.
- Help your parent visit a few nursing homes to review their options. Most seniors prefer to stay in their home and may be willing to accept the help required to stay there.
- Often people will listen to their doctor. Ask their doctor to suggest a plan that includes a caregiver.
- Often, your loved one may be concerned about the cost of services. Remember that most of today’s seniors grew up in the Depression and World War years. Money is always on their mind.
The Retire-At-Home Approach:
At Retire-At-Home Victoria, we’ve experienced our fair share of pushback. Most of our services have been sought out by the children of our senior clients, and their biggest concern is that their parents won’t accept the help they need.
This is why Retire-At-Home always starts with a free, no-obligation consultation and assessment. During this consultation, we will have a one-on-one conversation with your loved one in order to understand their anxieties, reservations, and even their resistance to the idea of a caregiver.
We hope that, by acknowledging their resistance, and explaining that their independence will be maintained, we will get them to accept the help they need need.
Our Case Managers are trained in dealing with these situations and, although the conversation is never easy, we can often help our clients feel more comfortable with the idea of accepting help.
In situations like these, we always suggest starting services slowly and gathering feedback from our client, to ensure they feel part of the decision making process.
Contact us today to discuss the home care options for you or a loved one in Greater Victoria, or to book a Free In-Home Consultation.
We proudly serve the following towns and communities in Greater Victoria:
Victoria, Oak Bay, James Bay, Colwood, North Saanich, Central Saanich, Saanich, Sydney, Langford, View Royal, Metchosin.
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Bob and Linda
Bob and Linda